Why does the ex who left in a huff start looking for you two years or even six months later?
Have they finally changed their minds and seen your worth????
No!! They’ve simply completed a cycle, the AVOIDANCE STAGE.
It begins with relief after the breakup.They list all your weaknesses to justify leaving you. They went all out into surface-level flings or rebound relationships.
They think they’ve finally found what was missing in their life. But in truth, these people only give the 20% you lacked,
And before long, they begin to miss the 80% you had.
The 80-20 rule says that your best partner will, at best, supply you with 80% of the things you need
Upon realizing that these people mostly have superficial charms without the depth of heart and care they got from you, they enter the second stage called CURIOSITY STAGE.
They start to wonder what you’re up to and if you feel miserable about their leaving. They silently stalk you or ask your friends about you.
But they’re still too proud to reach out.
After a while, their Curiosity confirms their worst fears. You became better after they left.
This communicates that they were the problem and it crushes their Ego.
You’re happier and Better than before, And they can’t have you. You didn’t run to other people As they expected and as they wanted.You retreated to yourself
You’re now at a better position mentally n physically which was against their wish.
They then enter the KARMIC STAGE – the regretful longing.
They miss the better person you had turned them into and how they have regressed.
They remember your love and genuine care, and they regret losing you.
They May try to check for return.
If you can shut the doors.
Let them eat their Ego
This knowledge is the most powerful whip, and it serves as a teacher to them and justice for you.
That’s why the best revenge is to glow and grow after someone mishandles you.